I want to begin this post by asking you to assume the best of me and know that I mean no judgment or malice toward anyone in the following post. This is a particularly sensitive subject for many people, and while I have not struggled with this specific area myself, I do validate and seek to understand the experiences and feelings of others on this subject, so please feel free to be honest!
It seems to be a common theme in the vintage community that most of us are drawn to vintage because it flatters our shapes in ways that modern clothing can't seem to do. However, I know it is also a struggle for many people that vintage tends to come in smaller sizes.
On some of the selling/swapping pages on Facebook I am a part of, I constantly see the struggle women of "volup" sizes have in finding vintage that fits them. Here are some of the kinds of comments I've seen lately:
"I would never fit into this and that makes me very very sad..."
"I can never find these things in my size!"
"Why is everything so small?!"
"It's so frustrating to try to find vintage pieces in my size."
So here is the subject I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on today:
When do you know you just need to learn to love your body as it is, and when do you know you need to work to change your body?
Obviously, there's no "right" answer to pick across the board on this controversial subject, so I won't attempt to do the impossible. I will say, however, that there is a difference between accepting your body because you love it and rock it (at any size) and being resigned to your body because you feel you can't do anything to change it. The first is acceptance based on true self esteem; the second is resignation based on hopelessness.
(And as a side note, I know health restrictions or illness can cause weight gain and can't be helped; this is not what really I'm referring to.)
I've just seen both sides of the spectrum: Some people applaud "accepting your body" and condone health habits that are increasing their risk of an early death and making their life more difficult. On the other hand, our culture is so obsessed with being a certain size that that almost no one can be considered "beautiful" without big boobs, a tiny waist, smaller hips, and general thinness. That's not right either.
When you've encountered body image issues, when have you decided to learn to love yourself as you are, and when have you decided to do something to change it? Why did you decide that way?
I'd love to hear everyone's thoughts, and please keep things respectful!
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